Years before many parents are even close to raising a teenager, it seems that many already dread the day when their preschooler becomes a high schooler. They’ve heard the frequent complaints and concerns about raising teenagers. They’ve endured the countless admonitions that come from distressed or disgruntled parents. “Enjoy them now,” they say with gloom in their voice. “Everything goes downhill once they hit those teen years.” These frightened parents of younger children just nod their heads, look at the sweet faces of their children and try hard to soak in these good years since what lies around the corner doesn’t sound too wonderful.
Well, I have made it around that bend and am now a mom to three teenagers (ages 19, 17 and 14). While parenting teenagers has certainly come with its ups and downs, I am on a mission to tell every young mom about the joys of raising teenagers. Even though I have genuinely enjoyed every stage of my kids’ development, I have to say that this season is undoubtedly my favorite. Here are my top ten reasons why raising teenagers is far more awesome than awful:
- You will laugh a lot, if you let yourself. If your kid is funny now, just wait. Our silly son did and said the funniest things when he was a little guy. At 17, he is just plain hilarious. Even though he can cross a line at times while displaying his wit, I love the everyday laughter he brings into our home.
- You get to see their gifts and talents blossom like never before. When they’re little you wonder what they’ll be like when they’re older. When they’re older, you look back and trace their gifts and talents back to the early days when you had no idea that this would flourish from that.
- You will see independence and strength arise when you least expect it. You will be so amazed at their ability to stand alone when challenges appear. You will be so proud of the strength and courage that blooms as they grow.
- You will love having deeper, thought provoking conversations. Your teen’s newfound abilities to question, debate, and discuss just about anything under the sun will delight you and drive you crazy as well. Some might tell you this is a negative trait. But, I am here to tell you that heated discussions can be a wonderful opportunity to connect with your teen as you make room for them to find their voice.
- You will see glimpses of who they will be as a man, woman, husband, wife, father and mother. While these may make you sad at times, they will also motivate you to equip them for what lies ahead. These often encourage me and remind me that they will be just fine.
- You will make wonderful memories doing things everyone enjoys. When we were finally able to play games and sports and do outdoor activities that my husband and I love, the competition and the fun went through the roof. Beating our kids was sickeningly satisfying. And, when they beat us? Well, let’s just say, the fun multiplied for them too.
- You will love their unfiltered, unbridled perspective on life. Even though their opinions might come flying out of their mouth at the wrong time, a teen’s honest take on things can be a breath of fresh air in a world where truth seems to be a disappearing commodity. Not only that, you may need to hear their honest take on you at times.
- You definitely won’t get bored. Teenagers are passionate and exuberant about almost everything and anything They might not always be fervent about the things you want them to be impassioned by, but their zeal will bring an energy into your home that you will need as yours runs dry.
- You get to live with a dreamer. Your teen’s dreams about their future will inspire you to begin re-imagining what yours will be like as well. Our teenagers can teach us how to take risks and trust God as we lean on Him to start writing the next chapter.
And, the #1 reason is…
You have the privilege of knowing that you faithfully walked beside your kid and cheered them on as they complete the last stretch of childhood and cross over into adulthood. Even though I still ache at the memory of my oldest packing up to go to college, I also feel grateful that I got to walk beside her every stretch of the way.
Parents of young kids, enjoy the season you are in and look forward with anticipation to the coming years when you will be raising a teen. And, you parents of tweens and teens, know that even in the midst of the hardest days, you are smack in the middle of one of the most awesome and awe-filled seasons of parenting. Soak it in and enjoy the gifts that God has to offer you in the home stretch.